Other than the first humans (out of Africa is the best evidence thus far), the story of humanity is one of groups of people taking over for other groups of people. Whether by conquest or treaty, no one lives in a place where someone else has not gone before. Family, tribe or nation, the human story is one of conquest and compromise.

Other than the first humans, no one can literally lay claim to the term, “native,” at all.For example, there are no “native” Americans; more like “earlier” Americans being linked to emigrants from Mongolia.

What this means is we are not born free. We are beholden to others in order to survive. This begins in family, to be sure, but the continued dependence we have on each other makes the idea of a self-made man or woman foolish. We are not free, but dependant. We will either learn to work together or manipulate and overpower to get what we want. Cooperation or exploitation becomes the human response. Then how can we be free?

How can I be free if I am connected to others in a positive or negative way? Freedom becomes the ability to know what is good for me and good for others and do it. By human nature I cannot consistently live my life for the sake of others. By God’s power I can. The only true freedom is to know what is good and through the guidance and power of the Holy Spirit be able to do it.

We are free to live for others. Free to serve. Free to give privilege a rest. Through Jesus, we celebrate our own independence from being dependant on our human nature.

What does it mean to you to know that you are a slave to what you want, but free to live for the sake of others?

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When we are turned from God, our bodies become the place where sin is lived out. The path of self-worship goes directly through what we look like and how we physically feel. We can see this obsession everywhere.

No one is really interested in how the stars are thinking lately. Yet, you page through any celebrity magazine and you will see the “best beach bodies in Hollywood,” “the worst fashion mistakes at the Oscars,” and so on. We get “Star” magazine at home for research purposes only and I am always amazed at how much what stars look like becomes the conversation for everything. Thin is still in, and yes, Matthew McConaughey does have an excellent six pack.

Then there is how I feel. According to advertisers, I am invited to try any product with the understanding that I am going to be sexually satisfied as a result. Other than a touchy feely family love theme, every product out there is marketed on sex. God-given creativity and imagination seems to be stuck in the public arena on how many different ways I can say that sex is god.

Pornography, alcohol, and drug abuse all are pure body ruin. We are bombarded with the message of feel good or don’t feel at all. Without a good spam blocker, the two “V’s”, Viagra and Vicodin seem to be the solution to all my problems. Giving in to the search for pleasure is a direct result of heart and mind ruin.

Social ruin follows because I don’t need you unless it means I can use you for pleasure. Even anger is not exempt from body ruin. Anger is lived out physically, as well. This is another warped way of the body. Getting a “rush” over rage.

So if heart, mind, body and social relations are all on the path to ruin, what happens to me?

When is the last time you looked in a full length mirror? What did you see?

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“Love your neighbor as yourself.”

This is the social relationship aspect of who we are. God created us as social beings. I would argue this is one of the key parts of being created in the image of God. Being able to relate to one another and God. God himself relates to himself as a social being in the Trinity. That should freak you out.

God living with God’s self in the existence of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and choosing to invite us into the love and joy of this Trinitarian reality. How is that for big words? In other words Father, Son and Holy Spirit are having such a good time living for the sake of each other that he decides, “Let’s make people to share in the joy!”

Born to party!!

Well, something like that. You live out who you are in the community of whose you are. A vital part of what makes you, “you,” is me. What makes me, “me,” is you.

When was the loneliest time in your life? What happened?

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Feelings follow after the thinking that our minds are doing. The path to emotional ruin is taken easily once our minds are convinced that we are in charge. If only everyone would think like us. If it is our desires that matter the most, then feelings bring plenty of destruction.

There is going to be tremendous amounts of conflict that go along with emotional ruin. Like the effect of the ring in the Lord of the Rings, “whatever we wants, precious, that’s whats we try to get.” The emotional pull of possessing what we want makes it impossible to care about the needs of anyone else. The obsession takes over.

Take dating, for instance. As long as I am having my needs met by you, I am in “love” with you. How quickly that changes when you don’t do what I want or I am not getting the attention I feel I deserve. Conflict quickly moves in and with me at the center of the universe, obviously you must be wrong. Either you change your act immediately or I am out of here. I’ll simply fall in “love” with someone else until my needs aren’t being met again.

Follow your desires? On the path to self-ruin that is the last thing you should possibly do.

What is there in your life that has more to do with following your desires than doing the right thing?

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The second part of you and me to examine is our “mind.”

‘Love the Lord your God with all of your mind…’

The mind is separated from the heart, but it works with it. The mind is constantly providing direction for the choices we make. The mind is further divided into two parts. “Thoughts” and “feelings.”

Thinking is where we process the world around us. We can consider many things in relationship with other things. Thinking is where we have the capacity to use imagination. It is where we form opinions and perceptions which we may or may not act upon. In a healthy mind, we use a set of standards called, “logic,” which help us measure our thoughts.

Our thinking is influenced by our feeling. It is our emotional response to what is being processed. Something may be logical, but we may feel that it is wrong. Two people can think in an identical way about something, but have a very different response because of how they feel. We are often pulled away from right thinking because we allow how we feel to take priority. This is where we can get into big trouble.

“Spock” is a good example of thinking and feeling. See the new Startrek!

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