How To Be A Christian Without Being A Jerk

Faith in real life

Living With a Ruined Heart

July 17th, 2012

“Acting on belief that is based on evidence” is a good definition of faith. When an atheist claims there is no God, the belief is not based on a solid body of evidence. There is so much evidence to the contrary, it may be the atheist has more “blind faith” than faith.

Romans 1:20 (NLT)
From the time the world was created, people have seen the earth and sky and all that God made. They can clearly see his invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature. So they have no excuse whatsoever for not knowing God.

Today, we are able to see way more of “earth and sky and all that God made.” The evidence for design in the universe- and the big bang evidence for space, time, energy and matter being created simultaneously- all point to to a likely conclusion that there is a causative, extra-dimensional agency. This doesn’t specifically warrant this being the God of the Bible, but there is other evidence for that being the case. Let’s just consider a “god” in general.

Why do a small minority of people not trust there is a god? Why do so many more people act as if there is no god? The challenge is, if God exists then God must somehow be in charge. If God is in charge then guess what? We’re not.

The path of ruin begins with the heart. Choices are made as if there is no God. These choices affect all the other parts of our lives. We wish to be in charge and if God exists we can’t logically hold to that viewpoint. So we begin to deceive ourselves in one of two ways. We either choose to believe there is no God, or we act as if there is no God. Either way we lose.

This is why unhealthy behavior by atheists and by people who identify as Christian can look very similar. One ignores the consequences of there being a God, and the other acts as if God doesn’t care. If we keep choosing to ignore God, we keep ignoring the blessings God has in store for us. When our hearts are turned in another direction, we cannot be our best, true selves.

Look for evidence of God today.

 

How do we deceive ourselves?

July 13th, 2012

Living With a Ruined Mind

When we choose not to deal with God, then our minds have to go to work. We need to find ways to convince ourselves that God doesn’t exist or God doesn’t matter.

We have worked on this in our country with some interesting mental gymnastics. In the public square, we attempt to follow a strict Darwinian evolution model, for example, and desperately hold on to natural selection and random mutation as the sole mechanisms for the development of life. However, this position is becoming more and more difficult to defend.

Origins of life research (“abiogenesis”) provides an impossible scenario for a strict view of Darwinian evolution to work. You see, in order for natural selection and random mutation to occur in the first place, you need something to select from; something to mutate. The apparent necessity of an outside agent of some kind getting the ball rolling is simply dismissed as something beyond the scope of discussion.

Those who do believe in God may also be tempted to follow viewpoints that may be more about themselves than about God’s desire, focusing on what they want, not what God wants.

One of the interesting attempts to cloud our thinking about God today is to is question the validity of God’s Word. When Bible scholars go out of their way to try to show the Bible doesn’t mean what it says it means, always look for a possible “conflict of interest,” from their lives.

The most common and controversial issue today where some contemporary Bible scholars attempt to undo a clear overall message from Scripture is supporting sexual fulfillment outside of a male/ female marriage. Whether the issue is same-sex sexuality or sexuality outside of marriage between men and women, they have taken a position contrary to traditional “sex between a man and woman within a marriage covenant.”

Scholars can choose to say the teachings of the Bible are out dated because the Bible falls strongly on the male/female marriage side, and indeed some scholars simply declare the Bible irrelevant to the matter in question. They say the Bible writers couldn’t comprehend an issue this complex.

The challenge of taking this position on the Bible in general is that it places a person outside of the scope of traditional Christianity. Christians claim God is the source of the Bible. God is certainly capable of knowing about situations we face in life today, having inspired Bible writers to address similar situations.

Once our choices turn us away from God, then our thinking goes to work. Deceiving ourselves in order to get what we want is not a difficult task. We are experts at it. Self-worship and deception are a great match.

What are some other issues upheld by traditional Christian morality that are being challenged today?

 

Self-Worship or Self-Denial: Our Choices

July 12th, 2012

Our heart is where our choices lie. We make good choices. We make disastrous choices. Why the difference? It really has to do with who we are and the paths we choose.

There are basically two paths. The first path is the one we start out on and most of us stay on. This is the “self-worship” path. Dallas calls this, “The path to radical ruin.”

Self-worship means we put ourselves and our desires on the throne of our lives. We are the center of the universe.

It is like when we are one year old and we can’t distinguish between ourselves and the world around us. In some ways, for most of us, this never changes. We grow older but we don’t grow up. Until Jesus is on the throne of our lives, radical ruin is the outcome waiting for us in any possible given situation. John Maxwell says it this way,

“Unless God is in control of your life; your life is out of control.”

Our human nature is to focus on ourselves and what we want. The mantra of a “normal” person is, “I want what I want when I want it.” Are there any alternatives? One.

The second path is that of “self-denial.” This doesn’t mean we deny who we are and the condition we are in, rather it means we choose not to give in to our normal desires, which are to seek pleasure and be in control. Self-denial or the “path to radical goodness,” is where we live for the sake of others.

This doesn’t demean us. This doesn’t turn us into doormats to be stepped on or taken advantage of. This enhances who we are and puts us on the path that God designs us for all along. When Jesus is on the throne of our lives, we are finally our best, true selves. How does this happen?

It has to do with the five parts of who we are again: Heart, mind, body, social life, and soul. We will look at the path to radical ruin and the path to radical goodness. We are invited to choose. This cannot be done for us, but under the influence of God’s grace, it is possible to choose goodness.

Think of times when you denied something that you wanted and it actually worked out better?

 

Living Life with God

July 11th, 2012

A life moving toward God, rather than centered on oneself, becomes a possibility when our heart aligns with God’s desires. When our choices are the choices God would make for us, we begin transformation. All the other parts of our lives are affected. Mind, body, social life, and soul are all involved in the process.

Here is what is different about a renovation of the heart. It is not simply trying harder or getting more focused on the choices we make. It is not a direct approach at all. Remember what we said about “willpower?” It cannot be sustained. Every part of you will scream out, “It can’t be done!”

Life with God is different. There is no part of you that cannot be transformed under the power of the Holy Spirit. Jesus is our model. We learn from Jesus how to live life as he would live it if he were us in any given situation. This begins with understanding what life is like without God.

Are you moving toward God or away from God? Think on this.

 

You can’t trust you

July 10th, 2012

Living Life without God

When I base my decisions and actions on all of my parts, I am in a danger zone. I am so good at being deceptive.

We see this all the time in the world around us. That which is sinful is called “good.” Seeking the truth at all cost is called, “intolerance.” Disagreeing with someone else is labeled, “hate.” Life without God is upside down.

There is hope. I don’t have to do what my thoughts, feelings, body, social pressures, and even my very soul itself, tell me to do. There is the freedom of choice that is my heart. God can take action in my choices.

Left alone without God’s influence, my heart can’t handle the pressure. I will do the things I know are wrong and not do the things I know are right. Life without God is life ruled by the devil or me.

Honestly, I can’t trust myself to have my own best interest at heart. My choices will be ruled by my desires rather than by God’s desires. I will not even acknowledge that I am not doing right. All my parts will find a way to convince me that I am OK. I will hear the “truth.”

“Go with your instincts.”

“You deserve it.”

“Everyone else is doing it.”

“You’re only human.”

Life without God is as dangerous as it can possibly be because it will seem so “natural.” There is another way.

Who are the morally conservative atheist thinkers popular in our society today? Is this a trick question :) ?

 

What is the only true freedom?

July 6th, 2012

Other than the very first humans, the story of humanity is one of groups of people taking over for other groups of people. Whether by conquest or treaty, no one lives in a place where someone else has not gone before. Family, tribe or nation, the human story is one of conquest and compromise.

No one can literally lay claim to the term, “native.” For example, “Native American” is technically an incorrect term. The people we would give such a distinction would be properly called, “Earlier Americans,” or “Mongolia Americans,” after the likelihood of migration over the frozen Bering Strait.

What all this means is we are not born free. We are beholden to others in order to survive. This begins in family, to be sure, but the continued dependence we have on each other makes the idea of a self-made man or woman, foolish.

We are not free, but dependent. We will either learn to work together, or manipulate and overpower to get what we want. Cooperation or exploitation becomes the human response. Then how can we be free?

How can I be free if I am connected to others in a positive or negative way? Freedom becomes the ability to know what is good for me and good for others, and do it. By human nature, I cannot consistently live my life for the sake of others. By God’s power, I can. The only true freedom is to know what is good and, through the guidance and power of the Holy Spirit, be able to do it.

We are free to live for each other. Free to serve. Free to give privilege a rest. Through Jesus, we celebrate our own independence from being dependent on our human nature.

What does it mean to you to know that you are a slave to what you want, but free to live for the sake of others?

 

Body Obsession

July 5th, 2012

When we turn from God, our bodies become the place where sin is lived out. The path of self-worship goes directly through our looks and how we physically feel. We can see this obsession everywhere.

No one is really interested in how Hollywood stars are thinking lately. Yet, you page through any celebrity magazine and you will see the “best beach bodies in Hollywood,” “the worst fashion mistakes at the Oscars,” and so on.

On occasion, I read magazines like, “In Touch,” or “People” (research purposes only!), and I am always amazed at how much emphasis is on what stars look like. Most are actors and singers, not models. I realize, thin is still in, and yes, Matthew McConaughey does have an excellent six pack, even for a man his age (Much better than my one pack!), but what about their skills and what they have to teach us about their art?

Then there are feelings.With advertisers, I am often invited to try any product with the understanding that I am going to be sexually satisfied as a result. Other than a touchy-feely family or extended family “we are all in this together theme,” most products out there are marketed with some nod to sexuality. God-given creativity and imagination seems to be stuck in the public arena on how many different ways I can say that sex is the real focus.

Body stuff like pornography, alcohol, and drug abuse are all pure body ruin. We are bombarded with the message of feel good, or don’t feel at all. Until they started making good spam blocker on the internet, the two “V’s”, Viagra and Vicodin, seemed to be the solution to all my problems. Giving in to the search for pleasure is a direct result of heart and mind ruin.

Social ruin quickly follows then,  because I don’t need you unless it means I can use you for pleasure. Even anger is not exempt from body ruin. Anger is lived out physically, as well. This is another warped way of the body. Getting a “rush” over rage. So if heart, mind, body and social relations are all on the path to ruin, what happens to me?

When is the last time you looked in a full-length mirror? What did you see?

 

I am “me” because of you

July 3rd, 2012

“Love your neighbor as yourself.”

This is the social relationship aspect of who we are. God created us as social beings. I would argue this is one of the key parts of being created in the image of God. Being able to relate to one another and God. God himself relates to himself as a social being in the Trinity. That should freak you out, it’s so big a concept!

God living with God’s self in the existence of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and choosing to invite us into the love and joy of this, as Dallas calls it, “Trinitarian reality.”

How is that for big words? In other words, Father, Son and Holy Spirit are having such a good time living for the sake of each other that God decides, “Let’s create people to share in the joy!”

We are born to party!!

Well, something like that. You live out who you are in the community of whose you are. A vital part of what makes you, “you,” is me. What makes me, “me,” is you.

When was the loneliest time in your life? What happened?

 

How Feelings Take Over Our Lives

June 29th, 2012

Feelings follow after the thinking that our minds are doing. The path to emotional ruin is taken easily once our minds are convinced that we are in charge. If only everyone would think like us. If it is our desires that matter the most, then feelings bring plenty of destruction.

There are going to be tremendous amounts of conflict that go along with emotional ruin. Like the effect of the ring in the Lord of the Rings,

“Whatever we wants, precious, that’s whats we try to get.”

The emotional pull of possessing what we want makes it impossible to care about the needs of anyone else. The obsession takes over.

Take dating, for instance. As long as I am having my needs met by you, I am in “love” with you. How quickly that changes when you don’t do what I want or I am not getting the attention I feel I deserve. Conflict quickly moves in and with me at the center of the universe, obviously you must be wrong. Either you change your act immediately or I am out of here. I’ll simply fall in “love” with someone else until my needs aren’t being met again.

Follow your desires? On the path to self-ruin that is the last thing you should possibly do.

What is there in your life that has more to do with following your desires than doing the right thing?

Mind

June 28th, 2012

The second part of you and me to examine is our “mind.”

‘Love the Lord your God with all of your mind…’

The mind is separated from the heart, but it works with it. The mind is constantly providing direction for the choices we make. The mind is further divided into two parts. “Thoughts” and “feelings.”

Thinking is where we process the world around us. We can consider many things in relationship with other things. Thinking is where we have the capacity to use imagination. It is where we form opinions and perceptions which we may or may not act upon. In a healthy mind, we use a set of standards called, “logic,” which help us measure our thoughts.

Our thinking is influenced by our feeling. It is our emotional response to what is being processed. Something may be logical, but we may feel that it is wrong. Two people can think in an identical way about something, but have a very different response because of how they feel. We are often pulled away from right thinking because we allow how we feel to take priority. This is where we can get into big trouble.

“Spock” is a good example of thinking and feeling. Check out the Star Trek (2009) movie to see this in a fresh, new way!


 

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