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Grandpa Diary #6

July 19th, 2013

Dear Kaylee,

Well, I finally got to snuggle with you again. I held you for about an hour and a half while you slept, and you opened your eyes when I shifted you to the other side of your head. You like left cheek on chest, rather than right cheek. You mommy told me to to shift you every once in a while so you wouldn’t get used to just one side. Mommys’ know, so I did.

While you were sleeping on my chest, your mommy read you my favorite book that I used to read to her. “I Love You Forever.” It was really, really, wonderful to hear my baby say these same words to her baby.

“I love you forever, I’ll like you for always, as long as I’m living, my baby you’ll be.” (I whispered, “my Kaylee, you’ll be,” to myself.)

The book was extra special because your mommy just got a package with many children’s books that your Great Uncle Mark had at his home. It has been a very say time for all of us because Uncle Mark got really, really sick, and died in April. We will always be sad, but we have peace and joy knowing he is fully healed and living with Jesus. Everytime we read those books to you, and you read them, it will be like your Great Uncle Mark is reading them to you, too.

When you were born, it was extra special for your Grandma Hanson, because she is so very sad about her brother she loves so much. My heart hurts lots, so I can’t imagine how much she hurts. But, when you came into our world fully, only one week ago today, I saw joy come into her eyes and shine on her face, such as I haven’t seen for a long time.

That’s what you are Kaylee, a heart healer.

Well, I have to go because Grandma and I are going out for dinner. It’s our 27th wedding anniversary! Next time, I will tell you all about that!

Love,
Grandpa

The challenge of using race as identity: George Zimmerman trial example

July 18th, 2013

When you try to define identity with race, you have just entered into a really messy place. We are seeing this played out in the controversy and uproar with the George Zimmerman trial and verdict. Here’s what I mean.

 

George Zimmerman self-identifies as “Hispanic.” That’s because he is “Hispanic” by any definition you use. Census. Voter registration. Applications for financial aid for college. Family of origin. George Zimmerman is Hispanic.

 

George Zimmerman’s father is White, but his mother is Peruvian. If they were living in Peru rather then Virginia when George was born, then according to customs there, he could have “Jorge Zimmerman Mesa,” on his birth certificate. George Zimmerman is Hispanic. If you put a picture of George Zimmerman with boxes below that say, African American, White, or Hispanic, 100 people out of 100 will check “Hispanic.”

 

If you disagree with this, you also disagree with President Obama being identified as “African American.” His mother is White. If you put a picture of President Obama with boxes that say African American, White,  or Hispanic, 100 out of 100 people will check “African American.”

 

Do you see how this goes?

 

Defining identity with race is dicey. The more people from different racial “categories” marry each other and have kids, it is going to be even more difficult to use racial identity as an absolute filter on the cultural and political landscape.

 

Let me make it even more confusing.

 

George Zimmerman’s mother’s grandfather was black. This makes George Zimmerman 12.5% black. Yet, since he is Afro-Peruvian, this just gets classified with “Hispanic.”

 

So, what do we make of all this? It doesn’t surprise me at all to hear about “White” racism, see blogposts that say things like “A Letter to White America,” and such. This is expected. It is status quo. But, how would the uproar play out if it had been Jorge Zimmerman Mesa on trial? We will never know. George Zimmerman is Hispanic, but that doesn’t fit into the neat categories of racial identity, racism, bias, and so on, being a black/ white issue.

 

For example, research on racial bias in “Stand Your Ground” law only takes into account white and black shooters and victims. I know this because our son has some expertise in “Stand Your Ground,” law specifically, as he does research on this for the Criminology department at his university.  It seems the racial bias factors are only taking into account black/white shooter/victims. Here’s an excerpt from one such report of the Urban Institute,

 

“ In states with Stand Your Ground laws, 34 percent of white shooters did not face charges or have not been convicted after shooting a black person… Just 3 percent of black shooters got the same treatment after shooting a white person and making a Stand Your Ground claim…”

 

This difference in charges and convictions is certainly interesting from a justice standpoint concerning “Stand Your Ground” laws, and ought to be vigorously researched. However, currently this doesn’t really address the Zimmerman case. George Zimmerman is Hispanic.

 

Yes, using racial identity is confusing. If you look up a “Wikipedia” article for “George Zimmerman,” you will not find one. You will be redirected to “Shooting of Trayvon Martin.” On Monday in this article, George Zimmerman was called, “multi-racial Hispanic American.” Today, he is called “mixed-race Hispanic.” But, President Obama in his Wikipedia article is not “multiracial African American,” nor “mixed race African American,” on Monday or today.  No, he’s just  plain “African American.”

 

It will continue to be more and more difficult to keep a neat white against black racial meme going. But, presently, for much of media and social media, a Hispanic man killing a black teenager is still a “white thing.” Interesting…

 

If you want to hear what I actually think about the trial verdict, you can listen to this.

 

 

Grandpa Diary #5

July 17th, 2013

Dear Kaylee,

Well, enough is enough! Today (7/17/13) it will be two whole days since I have seen you:(

I want to snuggle my nose against your little neck and smell my little Kaylee…

This is not weird, as I used to do this with your mommy, too. The sweetest “baby-smell” in the world! Actually, most of us adults do the same thing if we hold babies. Either their necks or their hair, y’all just smell so fresh and clean!

When I was a little boy, your great-grandma used to smell me, and she would make these, “Sniff, sniff” sounds, and then she would say,

“Oh, it’s one of my own. Mommy knows the smell of one of her cubs!”

Great-Grandma Hanson is talking about how mommy bears like to sniff their cubs. And Great-Grandma Hanson had 5 cubs, so that was a lot of sniffing! The other four “cubs” are your great uncles: David, Steve, Jon and Andy. David is married to Shari and Andy is married to Peggy, so they are your great aunts. They are all so excited you have finally arrived!

Great-Grandpa Hanson is excited about you, too. He and Great-Grandma Hanson don’t live near us, so he has to only think of you by looking at your picture.  He lives in a place with lots of other great-grandparents and he says, “My great-granddaughter is the cutest!” He has a big picture of you that he showed to everyone and now it’s on his refrigerator with other pictures I sent. This is so he can remember his first little grandchild, Kaylee, every time he wants to get something to eat!

Great-grandma Hanson is excited and loves you, too! You are deep in her spirit and mind. I told her all about you, but she can’t really talk about you a lot, because she has a hard time remembering things. But, O, how she loved your mommy so very much and she has a shadow in her mind of her special granddaughter, Kristina, so I know that she loves you so very much, too, even if she can’t talk about it. In fact, if she were holding you right now, she might just sniff your neck and say,

“A great-grandma knows her cub!”

Love,

Grandpa

Grandpa Diary #4

July 16th, 2013

Dear Kaylee,

Today (7/15/13) we got to see you again…Yayyyy! Grandma, your Uncle David and I came over in the afternoon. Your mom and dad and Uncle Matt were there with you, too. I was so antzy to see you, I could hardly wait. Then when I walked through the door, there you were! Oh you were so cute in one of your onesie outfits. Grandma and Uncle David held you for a looooong time- then your mom fed you- and now it’s my turn.

I put a little blanket on my shoulder and laid your head there so I could rub your back and burp you. Well,

“Thar she blows!”

Your first spit-up on me, but it wasn’t so bad. Kind of cute and didn’t bother me at all. Then I held you on my knees and looked at you for a long time. Back to rubbing your back, and, hey Kaylee, you sure are a wiggle worm!

I know you are stretching every which way to put your muscles and tendons in action. It was like you were in a yoga class. Then, guess what? your mom asked me to change your diaper. Well, I haven’t done that for years, and boy do you have little legs…

Oh, and it was a stinky diaper, too. It was like riding a bike to change you, though, memory kicked in and when I cleaned you off and put on a fresh diaper, you looked at me like, “Thanks, Grandpa, now give me back to Grandma!

So, I did…

Love Grandpa

Dana Hanson Show #31

July 15th, 2013

“Race” is a classification of knowledge that has taken hold of thinking in America. As has been pointed out by many, “Race, Class, and Gender,” appear to be the new “Holy Trinity.” But, in the George Zimmerman trial, things get pretty complicated as far as race is involved.

Here are my observations on this and my take on the whole story.

Grandpa Diary #3

July 15th, 2013

Dear Kaylee,

Today (7/14/13) is Sunday and that is your grandpa’s favorite day because he gets to worship Jesus with his friends! They were all so excited to see grandma and me and congratulate us! It was fun to receive all that love, but of course, your mom did all the work…

Kaylee, I teach people about God on Sunday’s and I got to talk about you today, because you are a wonderful gift from God! I even told everyone that I know you were 7 pounds, three ounces, and 20 inches when you were born, and how I didn’t even remember your mommy’s weight and height, nor your two uncles, Greg and David! Grandma told me I better get to work and memorize my own kid’s birth statistics. She’s right!

By the way, we did not see you today. We figured since you are home now, there are people who want to visit you who didn’t get a chance when you were in the hospital. I don’t like not seeing you; it already feels kind of strange. So, I just got off the phone with your mom and told her to give you a kiss from me.

Love,

Grandpa

 

Grandpa Diary #3

July 15th, 2013

Dear Kaylee,

 

Today is Sunday and that is your grandpa’s favorite day because he gets to worship Jesus with his friends! They were all so excited to see grandma and me and congratulate us! It was fun to receive all that love, but of course, your mom did all the work…

Kaylee, I teach people about God on Sunday’s and I got to talk about you today, because you are a wonderful gift from God! I even told everyone that I know you were 7 pounds, three ounces, and 20 inches when you were born, and how I didn’t even remember your mommy’s weight and height, nor your two uncles, Greg and David! Grandma told me I better get to work and memorize my own kid’s birth statistics. She’s right!

By the way, we did not see you today. We figured since you are home now, there are people who want to visit you who didn’t get a chance when you were in the hospital. I don’t like not seeing you; it already feels kind of strange. So, I just got off the phone with your mom and told her to give you a kiss from me.

 

Love,

Grandpa

 

Grandpa Diary #2

July 15th, 2013

Dear Kaylee,

You are beautiful. At least that’s what everybody is saying on Facebook, texts, and conversations, thus far. However, there is another side to this.

Your mom is gorgeous, but it is her “inside” beauty that matters the most. She loves God and he works through her, especially as she works with teenagers. You have a “cool” mom. If you learn from your mom, your beauty will not remain hidden, as God will find many ways to work through you, too.

Well I know you are leaving the hospital. You will have a quick trip home, but don’t get used to it because your mom and dad bought a new house up in Valencia. I will get used to that house quickly because I will be seeing you a lot!

Love,

Grandpa

 

A granddaughter comes fully into our world…

July 12th, 2013

7/12/13 11:45 a.m.

Dear Kaylee,

We are waiting for you to decide to peak out in your new environment. God designed your mom’s womb to protect you and get you ready to be fully invested in his Kingdom. Yes, it starts from when your mom and dad were married and wanted to bring new life into this world. You are what is right and good and pure and holy in their life and they will be your mommy and daddy forever.

Grandma and I are with your mom and dad, and I for one, am nervous. It isn’t like when your mommy was born (I had no idea what to expect, Lamaze withstanding…), but the nurse says you are ready. When your mommy was born, I was even more nervous, because she was our first child. She is wonderful and you will love her with all your soul. Your dad is an awesome man who will love, cherish, provide, and protect you. That is what dad’s do.

Well, the wait is soon over…

Grandpa

 

12:50 p.m.

You made it! We went in to look at you for the first time and you look just like your mom! Your grandma is beaming more than anytime since when your mommy and daddy were married. Your other grandma is so happy and she says you look like your dad, so you got a bit of both your parents. You are quiet, but aware of everything going on. You have that little pug nose that gets passed down. I love it!

Well, your mommy and daddy are sure happy! Your mommy looks like she knows God had you in mind for eternity. You just fit in her arms really well. Sorry about one thing…If you grow up to be another Lady Gaga it will be all of our fault. We were snapping pictures like papparazzi….

Love-

Grandpa

How To Be A Christian Without Being A Jerk

Faith in real life